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| Bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. Luke 6:28 NASB |
| How does God want us to treat the faultfinders in our lives? They are people who, when they don't win, act "hurt" and blame others for everything that's gone wrong. Know anybody like that?
The Bible says, "Speaking the truth in love...grow up...into...Christ" Ephesians 4:15 NASB. Here are some pointers to help you: |
(1) Never confront with power, only with love! Recognize that the outward bravado of the faultfinder usually disguises deep insecurity; it lets them shift the focus off their own fears and onto the faults of others. (2) Move towards, not away from. Our first inclination is to ignore or isolate difficult people. Don't! Difficult people often want to be ignored, so avoiding them just provides emotional distance for them to hide. Plus it confirms their belief that you don't care, that you won't listen because you think they're wrong and you're right. |
| (3) Engage relationally.
Show genuine interest in their family, their work and their well being. Faultfinders usually struggle with giving and receiving love. They're inclined to elevate opinion and loyalty above communication and reconciliation. Nowhere is this more evident than in their personal lives. So be prepared to empathize with the trail of broken relationships you're likely to find. |
| (4) Bless and affirm.
Mark Twain said, "Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see." Faultfinders generally get more kicks than kisses. So, "Bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you." Avoiding them doesn't work; neither does arguing. But "love never fails." ~ Author Unknown |
| The Thoughts You Choose
Where your mind lives is where your life is headed. What you think about most willingly, when you have nothing else you must think about, will define the direction of your life. No matter what may be happening in the world outside of you, you have the power to choose your own thoughts. And the thoughts you choose can have an enormous impact. |
| When all is quiet, when the necessities of the day have been tended to, when your mind is free of any constraints, what kinds of things do you think about? The thoughts you have at such times, the thoughts you choose to think, are the thoughts that will show you who you truly are. |
| Steer those thoughts away from anger,
limitation, worry and envy.
Direct your mind toward thoughts of love, possibility, confidence, abundance and generosity.
Whatever may be going on in the outside world, your mind can live precisely where you choose for it to live. Choose to let it live in an empowering, life-affirming, rich and creative place. |
| Choosing the life you want begins with choosing
the thoughts that will direct you to it.
Those thoughts are yours to choose this very moment. |
| Let Go Of Your Anger
Don't get angry. Don't be upset; it only leads to trouble.(Psalms 37:8) Anger: It can be defined as the noise of the soul. Anger: It is the unseen irritant of the heart. Anger: The relentless invader of our peace.... The louder it gets the more desperate we become . . . |
| The normal response to a plea to calm down is; "You don't know how hard my life has been." And you are right. I don't. But I have a very clear idea how miserable your future will be unless you deal with your anger. For in the words of our day; "I've been there, done that." And I speak from experience, anger only breeds bitterness, depression and defeat. |
| If you could x-ray the soul of the vengeful and angry person you would behold the tumor of bitterness, black, menacing, malignant. Anger is carcinoma of the spirit. It's fatal fibers creep around the edge of the heart and ravage it, driving a wedge between us and happiness. Yesterday you can not alter, but your reaction to yesterday you can. The past you can not change, but your response to your past you can. |
| God will take your anger, you have only to ask, and then be willing to give it away. Don't fall for the world's trap, voiced in that old saying; "People can bury the hatchet; but they never forget where they buried it." God brings the peace that passes all understanding and can restore silence, tranquility and love in our lives. |
| The key to your happiness and contentment lies within you, within your own heart and mind. The way you start each day is very important; you can start off on the right foot or the wrong one. You can wake up with a song of joy and gratitude in your heart for the new day, for being alive, for the very wonder of living, and for being in tune and harmony with the rhythm of all life. |
| You can expect the very best from the coming day and therefore draw it to you. Or you can start the day with a chip on your shoulder, disgruntled and out of rhythm. You are responsible for what today will bring, and knowing it gives you an even greater responsibility than those souls who are not aware of it and therefore know no better. You cannot blame your state of mind on anyone else. It all rests with you. |
| And so it goes, the seemingly
endless monotony of of anger and pain ...
And so be it, until the moment arrives when all tears and hate
will be wiped away and time
will have no meaning and we will once again be on the same plane of existence and love ...
However, in this lifetime, I am no longer a prisoner of my past — past regrets, earlier traumas, pain and suffering. I believe in miracles and a joy-filled future. because I am responsible for my own failures, my own successes and my own happiness. I do not have control over my past, only my future. I alone have gained the courage to let go! So I let go. Even if it breaks my heart, I let go ... of everything negative. Period. The past cannot be changed, the future is still in our power. |
| Letting Go
Letting go doesn't mean I stop caring. It means that sometimes people have to do it for themselves. Letting go is not giving in to powerlessness. It's understanding that complete control is only ever a rhetorical position. Letting go is learning that listening does not mean waiting to speak. |
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| Letting go is not trying to change another.
The more we seek to change others, the more we are blind to ourselves. Letting go is staying away from the blame game. Things happen, people get hurt, people die. It has always been so. Letting go is not to regret what has happened, but to think of the part it plays in where I am now, and the opportunity it presents for guidance. |
| Letting go is understanding that any experience can eventually be helpful,
though this may often be difficult to understand at the time. Letting go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being, and make their own way, as you make yours. Letting go is not to fix, but to be supportive if my support is requested, or if my offer of support is accepted. |
| Letting go is understanding that any experience can eventually be helpful,
though this may often be difficult to understand at the time. Letting go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being, and make their own way, as you make yours. |
| Letting go is not to fix, but to be supportive if my support is requested, or if my offer of support is accepted.
Letting go is to fear less and love more, for in fearing more we love less and fear even more. Letting go is trusting that if I can listen for more helpful understandings of life and how to live it, and occasionally learn, the rest will follow. |
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| To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization that I can't control another.
To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. To let go is not to try to change or blame another, I can only change myself. |
| To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive. To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcome, but to allow others to effect their own outcomes. |
| To let go is not to be protective, it is to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny, but to accept. To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue, but to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them. To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes, and to cherish the moment. |
| To let go is not to be protective, it is to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny, but to accept. To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue, but to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them. To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes, and to cherish the moment. |
| To let go is not to criticize or regulate anyone, but to try to become whatever dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future. To let go is to fear less and to love more. |
| Heavenly Father, bless my family and my friends in whatever it is that You know they may need this day! And while You are at it, please bless everyone in our troubled world so their life may be full of Your peace, prosperity and power as he/she seeks to have a closer relationship with you. Amen. |
| Calm of the Storm sung by Susie Luchsinge |
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